Kylo Ren is Probably an INFJ


My key word here is probably, so don’t try to lightsaber fight me in a snowy forest just yet. My other key word here is TURN AROUND NOW IF YOU DON’T WANT SPOILERS! Well, that was more a phrase, but seriously stop reading NOW.


See? Look how considerate I am. ~~*Simply INFJ Things*~~

Anyway, moving on, I’m pretty sure Kylo Ren, or Kylo BEN (ha ha ha, see what I did there?) is most likely an INFJ and here’s why:

1.) He has a classic case of INFJ Rage™


One time I flipped over a table as a child because I was so mad my mom snuck out of the house without telling me. This was basically Ren acting like a mega-baby who can’t control his Fe very well. At least my excuse is that I was 6 years old.

2.) He has deep Ni intuition 


*Kylo Ren and Supreme Leader Snoke discuss Rey in the novel*
“This girl—resisted you?”
“Completely untrained, but strong with the Force. Stronger than she knows.”

Ren’s intuition and keen focus on Rey’s gift is much more pronounced than that of Leader Snooki’s. INFJ’s pick up on everything, after all.

3.) He can emotionally manipulate the crap out of you


Call it EQ, or call it emotionally torturing people to get what you want out of them, Ren is smart, but he’s not resting on logic to get there.

4.) He’s extremely idealistic and visionary


This whole mission is intended to honor what good ol’ Grandpa Vader started. Ren is entirely blinded by his vision of the First Order (whose name reminds me of New Order, who is also one of my favorite bands because INFJness).

5.) Ya know, Hitler and Osama Bin Laden were INFJ’s too.


INFJ’s who embrace toxicity and the dark side can become almost unstoppably evil. Look at Hitler or Bin Laden. These figures in history were so convinced by their beliefs that they weren’t above murdering and torturing humans to make them a reality: Ren is no different.

6.) He’s kind of an evil monster, but he’s also really human


When Ren takes off the mask to show Rey what’s underneath, he’s just a kid. He’s a young Marilyn Manson looking kid with emotions, goals, angst and a whole lot of anger. By the way, MM is an INFJ too.

7.) And he’s surprisingly soft-spoken and sensitive underneath the mask


…Or he’s just a whiny, teary-eyed, emotional bastard. You decide.

8.) He abandoned his family in order to resist an emotional connection to them


…And yet he STILL does! INFJ’s are deeply connected to their loved ones. Deep down he knows he still loves Daddy Solo, which is what leads me to my next point:

9.) He can easily make a decision and never turn back, also known as the INFJ Door Slam™


He had to stab his dad and push him down a shaft just to eliminate their bond and the pull he felt toward him. The worst part is that he won’t regret this decision either. Solo, you’ve been cut, literally and figuratively.

10.) At one point, he still felt the pull to good


“Forgive me. I feel it again… the call from light. Supreme Leader senses it. Show me again, the power of the darkness, and I’ll let nothing stand in our way. Show me… and I will finish what you started.”

Even when INFJ’s are being evil, they don’t feel they’re being evil. Their moral compass enters a state of total conviction which enables justification for their actions, but his still experienced doubt for good chunk of the film.

While it’s way too soon in the trilogy to come to a definite conclusion on this, it’s what I’m betting on so far. So, who knows, I could be wrong—and there’s a gigantic chance of that—but I’m ready to bet on it for now, and as an INFJ myself, I can see myself coming and going from a mile away.


5 Challenges of being an INFJ

1. The ideal scenarios we create in our head don’t play out that way in real life


Ok so we envision a conversation going perfectly with a stranger we are trying to impress, getting a job offer during the interview or seeing ourselves on that late night talk show telling charming stories that reflect how interesting and awesome we are (even though we aren’t famous and don’t warrant that kind of attention….YET). Sometimes, that creative daydreaming that we are so good at keeps us away from reality.

2. We’ve jumped to conclusions prematurely


Our combination of intuitive intuition (Ni) and our weak extroverted sensing (Se) along with the fact that we are a judging personality can sometimes lead to a lapse in judgement, poor decision making or false assumptions.

3. We’re feeling all of the FEELS 


Feelings are great when they’re warm and fuzzy and all of the wonderful things in life, like excitement, joy, compassion and gratefulness, but sometimes they’re not so great when we are feeling exhausted, sad, hurt or ignored—and especially if it’s all at the same time! INFJ’s are prone to becoming overwhelmed because we feel so deeply with extraverted feeling (Fe).

4. Our intuition is telling us something is wrong before It’s been actualized


We know something is wrong. We feel it. We sense it. It’s even worse when no one believes us!

“I know something isn’t right.”
“how do you know that? You don’t know that.”
“BUT YES I DO! I just can’t explain it”
*a few days later*

5. We’re really tired but you need to apply our extroversion skills™


Sometimes we need to be social and do real world stuff, but we really just feel like being in bed for 12 hours and then maybe playing The Sims 4 for another six hours. (no, just me?)

(all GIF’s from Giphy)

Myers-Briggs: Being an INFJ


I love learning about myself. And in learning about myself, I never pass up an opportunity for growth and a developed sense of self-awareness Out of the 16 personality types, I have the Introverted iNtuitive Feeling Judging personality type, or the INFJ.

So what does this actually mean? First off, my preference percentages are roughly nine percent Introversion, 13 percent iNtuition, 51 percent Feeling and 31 percent Judging, and preference percentages are everything. They determine where a person rests and how likely they are to reflect certain traits typical of their personality type. Someone with a high percentage of introversion for example is less likely to enjoy parties than someone with a lower percentage.

The Textbook INFJ™ is quiet, reflective, caring and ethereal. They want the best for people and the world around them, and many times, are natural leaders. After all, people like Martin Luther King Jr. and Mahatma Ghandi are typed as INFJ’s. But as we all know, no one is a textbook definition: we are all unique with specific preferences and styles. While I may prefer an INFJ way of thinking, feeling and conducting myself, I also have a unique spin on the four aspects of my personality type. I’ve decided to break down how these four elements affect my being.

1. Introversion

I consider myself a social introvert. While I love people, and I can dish a fair amount of pleasant charm, I also love alone time. I don’t like being lonely, but being alone in small doses is crucial to my well-being. People burn through my energy (sorry, love y’all), and I need time to reflect, absorb and recharge. Many people misunderstand what introversion actually means. It doesn’t mean I’m anti-social or impossibly shy, I’m just slow to warm and use energy to interact with people that must be recovered on my own terms.


2. iNtuition

While facts are a critical part of my thought-process, and my five senses necessary for evaluation, I rely on my underlying gift of intuition in all decision making. I’m incredibly keyed-in to situations, and can sense what people are feeling and thinking almost innately—I just sorta know. I pick up on energy; I pick up on vibes. Luckily, my intuition never leads me astray. Instead, it makes me an imaginative idealist, which leads to endless possibilities.


3. Feeling

This part of my personality is where I feel most like the common description of an INFJ. I am sensitive, loving and emotional. I am passionate, caring and considerate. I am sentimental, conscious and empathetic. I want justice in the world, and that’s because it is what I feel is right. I lean on my emotions first and foremost, but I am still capable of balancing them with logic and rationale. It’s a gift, really. While I am the first to cry, I’m also the first to laugh. While I feel deeply, and have had my feelings crushed many, many times, I bounce back with an unwavering resilience every time.


4. Judging

Last is the judging component of my personality. This is where the distinction between an INFJ and INFP becomes apparent. When I was younger, I always typed as an INFP, but as I grew older and began to know myself in the Adult World™, I’ve typed as an INFJ ever since. The INFP is much more fluid because they are perceiving personalities. P’s tend to be more spontaneous, flexible and uncomfortable with leadership than J’s. Being a J makes me practical, ambitious and focused. It allows me to set clear goals and develop a plan to follow them through. While these are positive, It can make me jump to conclusions quickly, and even cause me to behave rigidly. Quite frankly, I hate when life doesn’t go according to plan, but I’m proud to say I have been working on this.


So, this is me in a nut shell. These four components help explain how I operate and why. I’m not perfect, but I appreciate myself for who I am, and at least my personality type keeps things interesting.

(Images from Pinterest, GIFs from, content from Star Trek Deep Space 9, True Detective, Anchor Man and All About Eve)